10 Years of Marriage: Why Valentine’s Feels Different After Kids

10 Years of Marriage: Why Valentine’s Feels Different After Kids

February is here 💘 and the whole world is going gaga - swooning over cupids shooting arrows.

Brands are suddenly talking about love and ten thousand ways to impress your partner by buying ridiculously expensive and highly useless things.

Build your long-lasting relationship this Valentine’s 
by buying products that will ultimately get lost in the dump that I have in cupboard because with two kids and a child-like husband who needs spoon-feeding and mommying even to find a pair of socks, buying more things is not something I’m very excited about. 🧦🤦🏻♀️

As a mom, I don’t think Valentine’s has the same meaning for me anymore.

Ten years into marriage, my husband and I sleep in different rooms, tending to kids all night so that one crying child doesn’t wake the other. 👶🌙

All I really need is - 

  • a few hours alone
  • absolutely no botheration

That would honestly be the best gift my husband could give me. 🎁
I’m not even sure he even remembers Valentine’s is around the corner. 😅

Life has just become like this.
It’s not that I’m complaining.

But my:

  • hands
  • my plate
  • my head, which barely functions at times because it’s so full of brain fog
    all I crave is things, appliances, and people that make my life easier and simpler. 🧠☕

Valentine’s is now a day meant for family.

  • Evening cuddles 🤍
  • Slow dinners 🍽️
  • The peace and joy of kids sleeping on time so we can at least try to get cozy 😌

This definitely doesn’t guarantee a happy ending  but at least the guilt of not trying is gone 🤪
So no, I’m not complaining.

All I’m saying is: life comes in phases.
And in those phases, priorities change.
Roses might feel meaningful at 22. 🌹
But at 35?

All I want is:

  • a hot cup of coffee ☕
  • a massage 💆🏻♀️
  • and silence 🤫

And if you’re still stuck with your 20s expectations, No matter what you’ll always feel disappointed.

Parents,  live in whatever phase you’re in. 💛
What you have right now is the best version for this moment.
Trust me… it only gets crazier from here. 😅✨

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